So how is it going? Hopefully your problem gambler is still on the road to recovery and things have settled in the relationship. เว็บแทงบอล
However, if things have been anything but smooth and your compulsive gambler has gambled again. You are in a tough spot, feeling like you are being pulled by a wide range of emotions, from anger, frustration and helplessness. The unknown of what is going to happen next has taken a toll, because you have seen the ugly side of gambling.
Remember just because a person admits to a gambling problem, doesn’t mean life returns to normal. It’s a good start, but it doesn’t replace the importance of true recovery. It is the best defense against the urge to compulsively gamble.
So what should you do now? You know if you turn the cheek, acting like you didn’t know they gambled would be wrong. It would be going against what you feel and only give reason for the compulsive gambler to gamble again.
What I am about to say, I do with reservation. Yet the truth is a slip can be part of a compulsive gambler’s recovery. This is only if the person quickly jumps back on the recovery wagon, does what is necessary to reinforce barriers, so when faced with the temptation to gamble, they will encounter difficulties. They are not bold enough to think they can handle gambling.
Do you know the difference between a slip and relapse? A slip is an act of gambling, whereas a relapse is when the compulsive gambler gambles for days and or weeks, and isn’t active in their recovery. They start acting like they don’t have a gambling problem, even with telling signs and gambling resumes. There isn’t much accountability from the problem gambler anymore, they are deep in denial. During this time, they are missing in action, phone calls aren’t answered.
My next suggestion requires you to answer the following question, and please be honest when answering. Did you follow through with the consequences that were set forth in the plan? If you did, you are sending a message that if they chose to gamble, there will be consequences.
If you didn’t, now is the time to do so. It can be tough but until consequences are followed through it gives the compulsive gambler more of a reason to gamble again.
Next have a talk with them, discussing what triggered the gambling. This is also the time to fine tune a few things to prevent another slip.
Here are some other suggestions, if married take control of the finances and try not to give cash. Gift cards are a better way to handle the basic needs of a compulsive gambler, making it difficult for them to gamble. Remember money to a compulsive gambler is like giving drugs to a drug addict or a drink to an alcoholic.
If not married, but a relative or good friend, make it clear you won’t be bailing them financially. In order for the compulsive gambler to understand the financial repercussions of a gambling addiction, they must be the ones to bail themselves out.
The most important suggestion is, for you to continue your recovery. Being in a relationship with a compulsive gambler isn’t easy. However, with your recovery, you’ll have tools to do so.